Breaking the Silence: Addressing Rishta Pressure and Harassment in Pakistan

In Pakistan, young women face challenges that are often invisible to the outside world but painfully normal within households. From the toxic culture of rishtas (marriage proposals) to harassment in public spaces, these issues remain deeply rooted in our society.

The Problem with Rishta Culture

Take the example of Fatima (fictional name), who at 18 was pressured to accept a proposal from her 27-year-old cousin. In many families, such age gaps or cousin marriages are considered “normal.” Dowry demands are equally normalized, seen as a tradition rather than an unfair burden. This culture often strips women of choice and reinforces inequality.

Domestic Violence and Harassment: The Numbers

Alongside rishta pressure, Pakistan struggles with alarming levels of domestic violence and harassment. According to the Ministry of Human Rights, over 90,000 cases of domestic violence were reported in 2023. The FIA Cybercrime Wing logged 25,000+ harassment complaints in a single year. NGOs report that 11 rape cases are registered daily, yet many more go unreported due to stigma and fear.

Why Women Don’t Speak Up

For many women, silence feels safer than speaking out. Families often discourage victims from reporting harassment or abuse, fearing “shame” more than injustice. Schools, workplaces, and even homes can become unsafe spaces, leaving women with little room to breathe freely.

A Call for Change

It is time to unlearn harmful traditions and embrace a culture of respect and safety. We must say:

No to forced proposals.

No to dowry.

No to harassment.

No to silence.

Conclusion

Pakistani women deserve better. Change begins when we stop treating these issues as “normal” and start holding society accountable. Breaking the silence is the first step toward a safer, fairer Pakistan.